How to Be an Emotionally Intelligent Parent

Lets get this out of the way right off the bat: Raising a human being is just hard.Even though Im a psychologist, a writer, and a father, Ive never written anything about parenting because it is an almost overwhelmingly-complex and difficult job. And frankly, Im more than a little intimidated to give my own thoughts and suggestions about it because I know first-hand how difficult it is and how different every parents unique situation is.

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But, I think I finally figured out how to write about parenting in a way Im (mostly) comfortable with. My approach is to take 6 general principles of psychology and emotional intelligence and show how they apply in a special way to parenting and raising kids.These are the principles that guide my own work as a clinical psychologist and therapist in my work with clients.

But theyre also principles I try to follow in my own role as a parent to two young children.For each principle, Ill give a brief introduction to what it is, use an example from my own experience (either personal and professional) to illustrate why its important, and then offer a few resources for learning more or improving in that area.Please Note: These are principles, not prescriptions.

I dont have all the answers by a long-shot, and everyones parenting situation and needs are unique. Use as applicable.TABLE OF CONTENTSYou can use the links below to jump to a specific section:1.

Validation Letting our kids know that how they feel is okay and valid before we rush in to fix things and give reassurance. 2. Functional Analysis Learning to see our childrens behavior mechanically, not morally.

3. Differential Reinforcement Systematically reinforcing constructive behavior and discouraging undesired behavior.4.

Emotional Tolerance The idea that how we manage our own emotions is the most effective way to help our kids manage their own. 5. Assertiveness When we as parents model for our kids that its good to acknowledge our own wants and needs.

6. Guided Discovery The confidence-building art of letting our kids struggle and learn how to learn for themselves.Summary The Final Principle1.

ValidationValidation means communicating to another person that their concerns are valid and understandable rather than trying to fix them. Most of us tend to respond to other peoples difficulties-including our kids-with some form of advice or suggestion about what to do:After our toddler scrapes her knee playing outside, we reassuringly say things like: Its okay. Lets dry those tears.

Youll be fine. Theres nothing to be afraid of-its just a scrape.When our teenage son comes home despondent one day after school explaining that he just got broken up with, we say encouraging things like: Youre better off without her.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. You just need to move on and find someone else. Staying busy and active is the best way to get over heartbreak.

All of these responses are well-intentioned and perfectly natural; after all, none of us likes to see our children suffering. But heres the problem: When we immediately jump to advice giving and fixing, were subtly communicating the message that the way our kids feel is bad and that they shouldnt be feeling that way.This is a problem because, no matter how painful they are, emotions are not problems -theyre not dangerous and they dont mean something is wrong with you.

Its incredibly normal to feel sad when we experience a loss, just like its incredibly normal for a toddler to cry and feel afraid when she scrapes her knee and sees blood. But when we treat negative emotions like problems by implying that our kids shouldnt feel a certain way anymore or that they need to stop feeling that way, we teach them that its bad to feel bad.In fact, a common denominator for folks with mental health issues who show up in my therapy practice is that they learned early on that its not okay to feel bad.

As a result, they developed all sorts of strategies and habits from worry to alcohol abuse to help them not feel bad. My whole job as a therapist, then, is to teach them what I wish their parents had taught them decades okay: Just because an emotion feels bad doesnt mean it is bad.Its an incredibly liberating and healthy thing to realize that whatever we feel is okay.

And no matter how badly I feel, theres nothing wrong with me because I feel that way. Take it from a psychologist: The best way to help your child develop genuine confidence, self-esteem, and positive feelings about themselves, is to show them through validation that whatever theyre feeling is okay.Example of ValidationTo give you a concrete idea for what validating parenting might look like, lets go back to the two examples from earlier:Our toddler comes limping into the house crying having just scraped their knee playing outside:Invalidating: Its okay.

Lets dry those tears. Youll be fine. Theres nothing to be afraid of-its just a scrape.

Validating: Gosh, that looks like it hurts. Tell me what happened. That must have been scary when you saw the blood.

Our teenage son comes home despondent one day after school explaining that he just got broken up with:Invalidating: Youre better off without her. There are plenty of fish in the sea. You just need to move on and find someone else.

Staying busy and active is the best way to get over heartbreak.Validating: Im sorry, honey-I know you really cared about her. Ben, you seem sad whats going on?

I remember how bad I felt after my first breakup I felt so sad I couldnt imagine ever feeling that way about someone again.Quick Clarification: Validation doesnt mean that problem-solving and making a plan for what to do in response to difficulty isnt important. It is!

If your kid nicks an artery and is bleeding profusely, that is a problem and should be addressed immediately. The point is, when the difficulty is a painful emotion primarily, its important to initially be validating of that emotion and how the child feels before moving on to reassurance and a plan if that would be helpful.Validate first, fix second.

How to PracticeThe best way to improve your ability to be validating with your kids emotions and feelings is to practice the art of Reflective Listening, which means learning to mirror back what our kids have said as a way of signaling empathy and understanding.By far the best resource for learning to improve your Reflective Listening skills and validating communication is the excellent book How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. In some ways, its I think this book is the msot important guide to parenting Ive ever read.

Also, this article on Emotional Clarity can be helpful.2. Functional AnalysisFunctional Analysis means choosing to take a mechanical, rather than moral, perspective on behavior.

All too often we see our childrens behavior through the lens of what they should be doing. And while this isnt a bad thing, per se, it can become problematic for both our kids and ourselves if thats the only perspective we take on their behavior.Specifically, we as parents end up chronically stressed and frustrated because our expectations arent being met, and our kids end up confused, afraid, and resentful because they can never seem to live up to what their parents want.

Example of Functional AnalysisThe other night-3:15 AM, to be exact-my 3-year-old daughter came into our room. My wife got out of bed and brought her back to her bedroom, but was noticeably frustrated and exhausted, in part because our 2-year-old had also woken up earlier in the night and let us up for an hour.We continued to hear my daughter rustling around in her room, so I got up and angrily marched into her room.

My frustration peaked when I saw that she had turned the light on and was playing instead of listening to her mom and getting back into bed and going to sleep.I was on the verge of saying something about how she was supposed to be in bed, when I caught myself and asked myself a simple question: Is there a reason she didnt listen and stayed up playing?Almost immediately, I remembered back to my own childhood and being afraid of the dark, especially when I got woken up in the middle of the night by strange noises.

I vividly recalled how scary and helpless that situation felt. And then I instantly felt empathy and compassion for my daughter.I realized she was probably just scared and doing her best to manage her fear by turning on the lights and distracting herself with her toys (Dont we adults basically do the same thing when were anxious?

)So I calmed down, picked her up, and said: Whats going on, bug?She hesitated, then looked at me sheepishly and said: I heard thunder and got scaredOf course, my heart melted and I thought to myself: Of course you did. Its terrifying being a kid.

By coming into our room and then playing in your room with the lights on your little 3-year-old brain was just doing its best to deal with a big, scary emotion. Thats Functional Analysis. Instead of thinking about what should have happened ( she should have stayed in bed and not woken us up) or what needs to happen ( she should go back to bed and fall asleep), I was able to think about what was actually happening and how it made sense, especially from her little 3-year-old perspective.

Seeing my daughters behavior mechanically (what function did it serve?) helped me to be more empathetic and understanding. Which is important because it helped me validate my daughters experience and feelings rather than dismiss it and get angry at her.

As a result, she learned (I hope) that its okay and normal to be afraid, instead of its bad to be afraid.How to PracticeFunctional Analysis is more of a mindset than a skill. Practically speaking, the best way to apply it to your parenting style and start seeing your kids behavior functionally is to notice your own tendency to interpret their behavior with lots of shoulds in your self-talk.

When you get better at observing your self-talk and identifying those moralistic interpretations, youll be much more able to shift into a pragmatic and functional mindset.I recently put together a guide to becoming aware of and modifying our self-talk, which you can read here.3.

Differential ReinforcementDifferential reinforcement means systematically encouraging positive behavior and discouraging negative behavior. Heres an example of applying differential reinforcement to parenting challenges from a client of mine who was struggling to get her 10-year-old daughter to clean up her belongings around the house.Like most of us, my clients default strategy to changing her daughters bad behavior of leaving a trail of clutter anywhere she played was to tell her that she needed to clean up after herself.

She spent God knows how many hours of time and units of energy trying to convince her daughter that putting away her stuff when she was done was the right thing to do and that it wasnt very considerate to leave a mess. And when this intellectual strategy inevitably failed, shed then shift to threats like No iPad time tonight or the classic e xtra chores this weekend. Unfortunately, my client was typically so exhausted and over-worked-in part because of the constant effort to change her daughters behavior-that she often forgot to follow through on her threats or was simply too exhausted to implement them.

Unsurprisingly, her daughters behavior had not improved, and actually, it had been getting worse. As my client was explaining the situation, I realized this was a perfect use case for Differential Reinforcement.For my client, it looked like this:Staying vigilant for any example-no matter how small-of her daughter performing any kind of clean up behavior.

Taking her dishes to the sink after dinner, for example. And then consistently praising her daughter for it in a genuine way by saying something like, Thanks, honey. I really appreciate it when you put your dishes away.

Having a non-emotional conversation with her daughter about the behavior of leaving a mess and what she expects instead (cleaning stuff up immediately after shes done) and what will happen if that doesnt happen (no iPad use for the rest of the day). Consistently applying the new rules (with the help of her husband), no matter how difficult and how much of a battle her daughter makes it into.Now, in some ways, my client was trying to do this herself (using no iPad as a punishment for the bad behavior, for example).

But there were a few crucial mistakes that were preventing her strategy from working:First, while she was trying to eliminate the bad behavior, she didnt give a clear enough example of the good behavior she wanted along with reinforcement for achieving it. Another problem was that my client was inconsistent in her application of consequences and reward. Because she only occasionally followed-through on her threat of no iPad tonight she was essentially teaching her daughter that her consequences werent all that important or worthy of being followed.

And unsurprisingly, the daughter acted accordingly. Finally, my client was expecting her 10-year-old daughter to do the right thing because it was the right thing. But when this didnt happen, she couldnt let go of the idea that it should be happening because her daughter was old enough to understand.

Right or wrong, this strategy simply wasnt working. Differential Reinforcement is about learning to parent pragmatically rather than idealistically.Its about learning to see your children as they are and act accordingly.

Instead of trying to convince our children to act well, it means teaching them to. Of course, its easier to talk at our kids. Teaching is hard.

It takes time, energy, persistence, and creativity. But in the long run, both you and your kids will be much happier and more effective if you can lay aside all the shoulds and musts, and instead, focus your energy on pragmatically shaping the behavior you want. How to PracticeSadly, most parents dont have to complete a course in the fundamentals of human behavior and learning before they have kids.

Which is really too bad because there are a handful of really basic, straightforward principles that would take a lot of the stress out of managing bad behavior if only we had a basic understanding of them.Conveniently, you can find most of them in a quirky little book called Dont Shoot the Dog, which is all about applying basic behavioral principles to effectively modify behavior in others (including our kids). Also, in terms of Differential Reinforcement specifically, I recently wrote a full guide on the subject which you can read here.

4. Emotional ToleranceEmotional tolerance means the ability and willingness to feel a difficult emotion without trying to make it go away.As parents, the last thing we want is for our kids to suffer and be in pain.

In fact, were biologically wired to instinctively react whenever we think our kids might be in even the slightest bit of danger.And while this hypersensitivity to our childrens distress may have been a really useful feature when we were all cavemen and cavewomen rambling around the dangerous savanna, its less useful these days. Because despite what we hear in the media, kids these days are actually safer than theyve ever been.

Many of the signs and signals we get from our children that somethings wrong-crying, yelling, whining, whimpering, thrashing around on the ground, etc.-make us feel like danger is imminent. But just because our kids send us signals that make us feel like theyre in danger doesnt mean they actually are in danger.

Example of Emotional ToleranceMy daughters are quick eaters. They often finish their dinners well before my wife and I do. But we have a rule that no one gets to leave the table until everybody is finished.

And when my wife or I enforce this rule, my daughters dont like it. They see a room full of toys just waiting to played with and an excruciatingly slow-eating set of parents doing more talking than eating, which drives them a little crazy.So what do they do?

They cry, they whine, they beg, and they plead. And when we come back with the same answer of No, they ratchet up their entreaties-crying, jostling around in their seats, even the occasional meltdown or tantrum. At this point, the temptation for my wife and I to give in and make an exception to the rule just this once is strong.

Weve both had long days and just want to chat and catch up.But even more than that, after just a few minutes of two toddlers ganging up on us with an alternating strategy of tearful whining and carving up the new dinner table with their forks, my wife and I are both getting pretty emotional ourselves. Obviously, theres lots of frustration.

But more subtle and powerful, I think, is that whispering little voice from our evolutionary past saying, Look how upset they are. Its not good for them to be so upset and angry. Youre probably damaging their fragile little psyches somehow.

Just relax and let them get down. Now, all of a sudden, theres anxiety in the mix about being a bad parent (one of the most pernicious forms of anxiety out there).This is where it gets really tempting to give in and just let them down.

But the thing that usually helps us stay the course is to realize what we would be teaching our kids if we did give in and make the exception. They would quickly learn a powerful lesson: If we do things that make mom and dad uncomfortable, mom and dad tend to give us what we want.In other words, if my wife and I cant tolerate the emotional discomfort that comes from seeing our kids upset, we end up teaching our kids a lesson which is going to lead to a lot more stress, frustration, and grief in the long-run.

Sticking to our values and principles for raising our kids is hard because difficult emotions get in the way. And while its often a relief to temporarily make exceptions to these values and principles, this only makes it harder to stick to them in the future.This is why the secret to cultivating good behavior in our kids is to increase our emotional tolerance for upsetting but not genuinely dangerous scenarios.

How to PracticeAs parents, most of our best-intentions get left behind because we have a hard time managing our own emotional responses to our kids. Which is understandable since we do have a strong duty to protect them and keep them safe. But learning to distinguish genuine danger from things that simply feel dangerous is key.

The best resource I know of for helping parents build emotional tolerance is a little book called Scream Free Parenting. Its all about how the most important lessons we can teach our kids is to manage our own emotions effectively.5.

AssertivenessAssertiveness means acting in a way that is simultaneously true to our own values and respectful of others.Assertiveness isnt an idea thrown around much in the parenting world, which is a shame because I believe its one of the most valuable and important lessons we can impart to our children the strength to stand up for and act on what they believe to be right in way thats calm and confident. Like most lessons we hope to impart to our children, talking about them doesnt do a whole lot of good.

You can try to convince your kids that its okay for them to ask for what they want even if they feel nervous or to say no confidently when they feel like theyre boundaries are being violated. But ultimately, if you really want the lesson to sink in, you need to model it for them yourself-you need to show, not tell. Which means that if we want to raise confident, assertive kids, we need to start acting assertively ourselves.

Now, assertiveness is a huge topic and there are a million and one examples of situations where assertiveness is important-everything from asking for help even if youre embarrassed to saying no to unwanted sexual advances.But heres a very basic situation that I think gets the idea across:Example of Assertiveness and ParentingI had a client who was a stay-at-home mom who faced a dilemma: While she loved being able to stay at home with her two young kids, it felt confining and overwhelming at times. She described how some days, by late afternoon she was so exhausted and emotionally spent that she felt like just walking out the front door and not coming back.

She was quick to explain that she would never actually abandon her kids; just that it got so hard at times that thats how she felt.After working with her for a few weeks I discovered something interesting: She didnt do much for herself even when she had the opportunity, choosing instead to spend almost every waking minute with her son and daughter. I asked her, for example, if she ever went out with friends in the evening after her husband got home from work.

She responded sheepishly that she had thought about it-and really would love to-but once or twice in the past she had tried and it didnt go well.When I asked her to elaborate, she described how twice she had made plans to go meet up with friends in the evenings and her kids had basically thrown tantrums because they didnt want her to go. They got super upset as soon as she mentioned that she was leaving and she felt awful.

On top of that, her husband seemed daunted by the idea of taking care of two sobbing young kids for an evening. And so she abandoned her plans and stayed home. As my client and I explored this situation, we settled on two important implications of her unwillingness to assertively take time for herself:The first was fairly obvious: Not being able to take time for herself was exacerbating her own already high stress levels and exhaustion, to the point, she worried, that it was affecting her relationships with both her spouse and her kids (not to mention her own mental health!

).But the second implication was more subtle: What kind of example was she setting for her kids? She was modeling for them through her own behavior that you need to sacrifice your own perfectly valid needs and wants in order to accommodate the wishes of others.

As soon as she realized this, it was like a lightbulb went off. She realized how, especially for her daughter, this was the exact opposite lesson she wanted to be teaching.She wanted both her kids (but especially her daughter given the pressures women face) to be confident enough to speak up for themselves and take care of their needs and wants even if theres pressure from others to fall in line.

So we worked out a plan where she would gradually start acting more assertively: taking time to herself on the evenings, scheduling meetups with friends, etc. She even started exploring the idea of hiring a nanny and doing some part-time work for her old company.Of course, it wasnt easy.

There was a lot of emotional discomfort she had to be willing to tolerate. But once she became clear on what was really at stake, it was a challenge she was more than up to facing. How to PracticeThe best way to raise confident, assertive children is to model assertive behavior yourself as a parent.

Which partly means taking time for yourself or doing things with your partner even if it means your kids might have to (God forbid) spend a few hours away from you.Theres a great resource for building assertiveness called The Assertiveness Workbook that I highly recommend. I also wrote a beginners guide to assertiveness that might be useful.

6. Guided DiscoveryGuided discover means giving people just enough guidance that they can discover things on their own.Talk to any effective teacher, coach, mentor, or therapist, and theyll tell you that trying to tell people how to do things is a terrible strategy for fostering true learning.

Instead, the most effective way to help people learn is to help them discover things on their own.Theres something special that happens when we struggle through a problem, persist, and eventually find the answer ourselves. These are the lessons and skills we truly internalize and are able to put into practice most effectively.

And I think this principle is an important one for parenting as well: While its tempting to try and impart advice and wisdom onto our kids, its usually far more effective if we can help them discover things on their own.Of course, its easier to simply give the answer or to do it for them. But in the long-run, I think we all aspire to raise our kids to be independent, competent human beings, capable of learning new things, adapting to novel situations, and rising to meet difficult challenges.

I think the best way to do this is to apply the principle of Guided Discovery as a parent.Example of Guided DiscoveryWere on our way to a dinner party and running a few minutes behind. My wifes dressing my 2-year-old daughter and Im trying to pack the car and make sure my 3-year-old daughter is ready to go.

As were rushing down the hall and into the garage, I see that my daughter is still trying to put on her sandals. I can see that shes struggling, but shes got this determined look on her face that shes not going to give up even if it takes the rest of the evening.In the heat of the moment, Im just trying to get everyone out the door and to our destination without being late.

So I can feel the impulse inside me crop up to go over and just put her sandals on for her. In fact, I literally find myself moving toward her, sometimes even saying something like, Here, Ill do it.Luckily, I can usually catch myself and take a broader perspective on whats going on.

Sure I dont want to be late. But in the grand scheme of things, if were 5 minutes late to my nephews birthday party, mehOn the other hand, theres something vital going on with my daughter right now. Her natural curiosity, budding analytical abilities, and perseverance are being engaged to solve a difficult problem.

Shes literally learning how to be creative, stick with her goals, and solve difficult problems! And Im two seconds away from short-circuiting that process simply because Im neurotically obsessed with not being two minutes late to a birthday party!Thankfully, I catch myself, take a breath, and watch her, allowing her to continue to struggle and work through her problem.

But after another 30 seconds, I can see shes getting really frustrated, and actually, close to giving up. So I decide to step in, but in the most minimal way possible: I say, What if you tried holding the buckle with your other hand so it doesnt move so much?She thought about it, decided to give it a shot, struggled for another 10 seconds, and then got it.

And man, the look of pride and joy on her face was one of those moments I absolutely live for as a dad. Still, its crazy to think that I dont always succeed here and deprive my kids of the opportunity to learn for themselves because my own stuff (usually, impatience) gets in the way.The principle of Guided Discovery makes me a better parent because it reminds me, whenever possible, to help my kids learn to help themselves.

And its hard imagine something I want more for my kids than the confidence and faith in themselves to work through and stick with difficult problems even in the face of adversity. How to PracticeTheres a great little book called The Coaching Habit that I highly recommend if you want to get better at the art of Guided Discovery. While its not written for parents specifically, the principles and techniques in it apply every bit as much to parenting and raising kids as they do coaching, mentoring, or any other form of teacher-student relationship.

Summary & The Final PrincipleWeve talked about six general principles of psychology and how we can apply them to the difficult job of raising our children:Validation Letting our kids know that how they feel is okay and valid before we rush in to fix things and give reassurance. Functional Analysis Learning to see our childrens behavior mechanically, not morally.Differential Reinforcement Systematically reinforcing constructive behavior and discouraging undesired behavior.

Emotional Tolerance The idea that how we manage our own emotions is the most effective way to help our kids manage their own. Assertiveness When we as parents model for our kids that its good to acknowledge our own wants and needs.Guided Discovery The confidence-building art of letting our kids struggle and learn how to learn for themselves.

Please remember that no parent is perfect (or even close to it). Its normal to struggle, second-guess yourself, and worry about how well youre doing in the terribly difficult job of parenting.Its also good to remember that kids are inherently resilient.

They dont need perfect parents to turn out healthy, happy, and well-adjusted. Good-enough parenting is just fine. I believe one of the most important things we can do as parents is to continue to try and grow and learn.

Parenting isnt something any of us are born knowing how to do. And understanding the psychological and emotional aspects of parenting is something almost none of us are ever taught. But we can all strive in small ways to keep learning and experimenting and doing our best by our children.

The Final PrincipleIll leave you with a 7th and final principle for more psychologically-informed parenting:Whats your why?Why are you a parent in the first place? What are your highest parenting goals and aspiration?

What are your most important parenting values?All the tips, techniques, and good advice in the world dont matter much if youre not clear on what kind of parent you want to be.So make sure to find a little time every once in a while to reflect on your parenting values.

Because the clearer you are where you want to go, the more likely you are to arrive.Originally published at on May 27, 2019 RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort?

No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with.

Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). Read the support documentation (second link below) to see how the Glass hardware actually functions. Build some apps to this specification.

Soon enough, you will find a friend with hardware to t



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To No Ones Surprise, Andrew Wiggins Is Going to the NBA
To No Ones Surprise, Andrew Wiggins Is Going to the NBA
By Paul SondhiAfter a solid, if ordinary, regular season and an underwhelming March Madness performance, Kansas Jayhawks freshman Andrew Wiggins has officially declared for this Junes NBA draft. If you are even just a casual NBA or NCAA Mens Basketball fan, you know about Wiggins. An elite defender with athleticism and length, the 19-year old Canadian forward has had scouts going back and forth all year about what he could be if he reaches his potential. Well-informed observers will take note that Wiggins stats from college must be taken in context, otherwise they look worse than they actually are. About 17 points and 6 rebounds a night is a solid average line, but it certainly doesnt scream superstar. But, those numbers dont capture his defensive acumen, nor do they tell the story of how coachable he has proven by adhering to Kansas coach Bill Selfs system. Projecting out how any college athlete may perform in a professional league is a tough thing to do, and this case is no different. Some turn to current players to find a comparison that makes sense based upon factors such as skill set and body type; others will use only statistical models to see what translates from college to the pros. Andrew Wiggins, however, is unlike other players in this draft in that he will be an entirely unique player. Lets start with the defense. Few draftees come straight into the NBA and maintain their level of individual defense, especially because NBA defensive schemes grow more and more complex; theres also the issue of guarding Kobe Bryant instead of the back-up point guard from Kansas State. With his ability to disrupt passing lanes and shutdown opposing players one-on-one, though, Wiggins should have no problem in isolation. His coachability will flatten the usual learning curve for younger players, and I expect him to be in the discussion as one of the leagues best perimeter defenders just a couple years into his career. The offensive side of the ball is where Wiggins has to make a name for himself as a special NBA player. He is not nearly as physically opposing as LeBron James, and his outside game cant touch that of Kevin Durant, but the Jayhawk is built as the ultimate slasher who could potentially finish around the rim with ease. As the focal point of whichever team drafts him, it will be on Wiggins shoulders to prove that he can carry an offense. Much of what scouts and talking heads derided him for all season long was his apparent lack of aggressiveness; if he is to be a great scorer, than this obviously must change. I would argue that he had trouble being the center of it all at Kansas, but given the keys to an NBA franchise with a professional coaching staff and a few veterans in the locker room, the kid will figure it out.The one name that always pops up as Wiggins best comp is the Indiana Pacers Paul George, who is arguably a top 5 NBA player. I could see him fitting that mold somewhat, but that is not what Wiggins should strive to be. George is a great defensive player, yes, but his offensive game is still very limited and inefficient. The one takeaway from George that Wiggins would be smart to glean is Georges reputation as a hard-worker who puts in the hours necessary to be one of the very best. One oft-overlooked factor is that so much will have to do with the team that actually selects Wiggins. The Milwaukee Bucks, Philadelphia 76ers, and Orlando Magic are currently the most likely teams to get the top pick in the draft. Its not a guarantee at this point that Wiggins will go first overall, Jayhawks teammate Joel Embiid and Duke Blue Devil Jabari Parker remain lurking in the background, but I would bet that Wiggins ends up on one of these three squads. Each are rebuilding and have assets, but the development process would probably look very different for Wiggins on any of those teams. He still has superstar potential, and being in the right situation would help him realize it.[Image via] RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort? No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with. Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). Read the support documentation (second link below) to see how the Glass hardware actually functions. Build some apps to this specification. Soon enough, you will find a friend with hardware to t
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Our Journey to a Smarter Wigan
Our Journey to a Smarter Wigan
Written by Alison McKenzie-Folan, Chief Executive, Wigan CouncilEarlier this year we launched the Deal 2030, which sets out ten key priorities for our city, Wigan. This strategy was published following a Big Listening exercise we undertook with our residents, where more than 6,000 people gave their ideas. Those ideas, which included making our borough more digitally friendly, have been pulled together into this one strategy. One of those priorities is Confidently digital. This priority sets out how we will harness the power digital has to improve peoples opportunities and prepare for the future. This means changing the way we operate as a council and using digital to transform the borough. From this we have developed our digital strategy which looks at this ambition in greater detail and is divided into three elements: Digital People, Digital Place, Digital Council.Digital people asks how we can help equip people with the digital skills for the future. This means working closely with schools to upskill our teachers and provide professional digital leadership skills to ensure they have the right tools to deliver cutting edge digital learning. One of the projects were rolling out in schools, and to the wider population, including our staff is iDEA. Our d igital inclusion strategy has been designed to break down the barriers that impact disproportionately on the most vulnerable groups in our community. Working with libraries and our Digital Taskforce partners we will aim to unite people, organisations and communities with a shared vision of digital inclusion for all. How can we make the borough a more digital place? This is the theme of our second digital strategy strand and perhaps the most challenging and ambitious. We want Wigan to become the first choice for digital business by reimagining our economic strategy to create a vision based around connecting residents to new emerging digital skills and attracting businesses to unlock new local employment opportunities.To support our ambition for a Digital Place, we and our partners are working alongside the Greater Manchester Combined Authority (GMCA) on an Initiative and led procurement programme which aims to increase penetration of full fibre within Greater Manchester improving our Wi-Fi connectivity offer throughout the borough and making it a more attractive place to work, live and visit. We are also following the progress of 5G with a very keen eye as this an exciting development which will further support our aspirations for the borough.We recognise the opportunities of Artificial Intelligence and Internet of Things to help redesign the way in which we deliver services and as such we are currently exploring ways in which we can adopt these technologies in areas such as Adult Social Care, Health and Wellbeing as well as how we interact with our residents on a day to day basis. Were currently working on our smart homes projects which will use data to reduce energy consumption in our social housing, which will not only be good for our residents finances but will have important environmental benefits too. In July 2016 Pokemon Go, an augmented reality (AR) mobile game, was launched. By September the game had been downloaded over 500 million times worldwide and become the fastest game to make over $500 million in revenue. Using the mobile device, GPS to locate, capture, battle and train virtual creatures, the game got people out of the house and moving around. Forbes Magazine said that Pokemon Go is the worlds most important game, because of its broader impacts on society through its health benefits. Like Nintendo, we want to explore how smartphone games and apps can encourage a greater footfall to our town centres, thus having a positive impact on our local businesses and on the health of our residents. One tool that were currently looking at is Beat the Street which has been implemented very successfully by a handful of local authorities. This walking points-based scheme is designed to get you walking to collect points for your team. In Swindon 31,000 people took part last year.How can we become a more Digital Council? We already do so much work with our communities and theyre a great asset. Were working with them at the moment to design a one stop fully integrated digital platform for residents with accessibility at the heart of design, this will include access to GP services, something that through our Big Listening Project was raised.We recognise the power digital has to improve the potential and growth of our borough and to transform the way we deliver services. We also know it has wider benefits, helping to address some of our biggest health issues. Weve already embedded the digital agenda in everything we do and will continue to push the bar to ensure we get the best possible outcomes for our residents.Read More of The Deal 2030More thought leadershipOriginally published at on November 12, 2019 RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort? No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with. Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). Read the support documentation (second link below) to see how the Glass hardware actually functions. Build some apps to this specification. Soon enough, you will find a friend with hardware to t
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The Battle of Ideas That Must Be Fought Against Radical Islam and ISIS
The Battle of Ideas That Must Be Fought Against Radical Islam and ISIS
Over the past few months, as it has found itself under increasing military pressure in Iraq, Syria, and Libya, Daesh has opened up a new front in Europe and North America. The call the organisation has put out to its supporters and sympathisers in the West to strike wherever and whenever they can in response to its mounting setbacks and defeats on the battlefield is being listened to and put into practise with deadly effect. And this is without factoring in the prospect of Daesh militants from Europe whove travelled to Syria to join the so-called Islamic State being sent back to carry out prepared and planned attacks in the coming weeks and months. The support Daesh has succeeded in attracting and cultivating in the West in recent years is confirmation of the emergence of a radical Islamic Ummah, one distinct from its traditional and mainstream counterpart which feeds on the alienation, marginalisation and social exclusion that is the lived experience of millions of young Muslims in the West.Ironically, though, those responsible for the attacks that have recently taken place in Paris, Brussels, and Nice are the product of the very Western cultural values they rejected in the process of crossing the psychological Rubicon that lies between the aforementioned anger, alienation, and social exclusion, and the willingness to engage in random acts of terrorism against innocent civilians. Those values, by way of a reminder, include a propensity for unleashing indiscriminate violence on an industrial scale Afghanistan, Iraq, Libya under the rubric of democracy and humanitarian intervention. The indiscriminate violence part has been imbibed by radical Islam, while the democracy and humanitarian parts have been rejected.Though Daesh is on the way to being crushed in Iraq and Syria, the long term struggle that also must be won amounts to a battle of ideas, based on the unalterable truth that an idea can only be defeated by another idea; one that is better, more attractive and compelling. As such, we cannot avoid the socioeconomic consequences of neoliberalism and the way that minority communities, such as Muslim communities throughout Europe and the West, have seen their access to full participation in the economic and social life of the societies in which they are located blocked or severely circumscribed. In a BBC report on the riots that erupted in the suburbs of Paris and other French cities in 2005, suburbs populated by the countrys large Muslim community, Henri Astler describes how radicals are able to tap into the alienation felt by many ghetto youths, before going on to quote a youth worker by the name of Farid Khelifi, who tells him, They [Muslim youth] have no jobs, no future. They do not know who they are. They are told they are French but they are not given the same rights as the French. Necessarily some become radicals.A rejection of the West and its values under such conditions is inevitable, with the attenuation of the left as a counter-hegemonic alternative to the status quo on the basis of class also playing a role in allowing the politics of identity race, religion, etc. to fill the space left behind when it comes to channeling the anger and, with it, militancy of young men who find within radical Islam the camaraderie, purpose, and self esteem denied them as outsiders at the banquet of Western democracy.This battle of ideas can only be won in the context of a struggle against neoliberalism and its replacement by something approximating to capitalism with a human face, which some might be bold enough to describe as socialism. It can also only be won when the West finally accepts that the Middle East and North Africa do not constitute one giant chessboard upon which its governments, peoples, and societies can be moved around like its pieces in service to their own economic and strategic objectives. For it is imperialism not terrorism that poses the real threat to humanity, with terrorism its inevitable symptom. The chaos and carnage that has engulfed the Middle East and North Africa in recent years is a monster of the Wests creation, one with historical precedent in rise of the Khmer Rouge in Cambodia in the 1970s on the back of the mass bombing of the country by the United States. It is an historical precedent that disproves the causal link applied by apologists for Western intervention between Islam and terrorism. In 2016 what we discern is a circular relationship between the industrial violence unleashed in the name of democracy across MENA and its bastard child otherwise known as Salafist-jihadism.It is why we can say without fear of contradiction that we have met the enemy and he is us. And it is why we can also say that winning the battle of ideas between the idea of radical Islam and the idea of a modernity which rests upon an economic system that serves humanity rather than is served by humanity, winning this battle is crucial in the interests not only of this generation but in the interests of generations to come Muslim and non-Muslim alike. End. RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort? No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with. Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). Read the support documentation (second link below) to see how the Glass hardware actually functions. Build some apps to this specification. Soon enough, you will find a friend with hardware to t
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John Wights Coronavirus Digest #2
John Wights Coronavirus Digest #2
In this edition:Donald Trumps Caligula moment, the mad scientist , and Keir Starmers tieFor four years between 37 and 41 CE the Roman Empire was ruled by one Gaius Julius Caesar Augustus Germanicus. He is known both to history and infamy as Caligula, an emperor whose wanton cruelty, barbarity, caprice, sadism and perversity is immediately suggestive of a grotesquely disordered mind. Among his more outlandish ideas was his plan to make his horse a consul in other words a high official within his retinue of officials and advisers. Caligula, somewhat inevitably, was assassinated, hacked to pieces by his own Praetorian Guard in his own palace.History repeats itself, Marx famously opined, the first as tragedy, then as farce. In the personage of Donald Trump, the 45th President of the United States, tragedy and farce are both present. The tragedy was his election in 2016, which marked the nadir of this grand experiment in placing democratic lipstick on the pig of a state then empire forged in genocide, ethnic cleansing and human slavery. It was a victory for anti-intellectualism and mass ignorance, of which both prevail in large parts of this ill-starred land. They say that you cant blame a mushroom for growing the dark, which is true, and the intellectual and cultural darkness in which millions of Americans exist is evidenced in a gun culture that connotes societal madness, along with a hatred and fear of the other that blows out of the water any vestige of social cohesion. Within Trump we have embodied the Trail of Tears, the overseers whip, the Klu Klux Klan, the Pinkerton detectives sent to crush the Homestead strike, along with too many others to mention during the US Labor Wars of the late 19th and early 20th century. Within him, too, is embodied the police batons of Jim Crow, the slum landlordism of urban America, the electric chair and the gas chamber.In other words, Donald Trump is the land of the free with its mask removed. His daily press briefings have also left no doubt that he, like Caligula, carries all of the symptoms of a disordered mind. His assertion that disinfectant could be injected or ingested as a potential cure for Covid-19, as his advisers looked on with the po-faces of shuffling courtiers, was a moment of peak insanity and crack-pottery, even for him. We can only hope, metaphorically speaking, that the Praetorian Guards in Washington are now astir. This having been said, we in Britain, we are obliged not to forget, have our own problems with disordered minds in our midst. With a clutch of fanatical ideologues at the helm, led by a prime minister whose practiced buffoonery and nuttiness has quite literally got more people killed in this past month than can be put down to events, we find ourselves cursed with the worst possible government upon whose lap has landed the worst possible crisis.Learning as we just have that Boris Johnsons brain the other-wordly and decidedly dangerous has been sitting in on meetings of the governments top scientific advisory panel should be grounds for public alarm. Firstly, it confirms that the medical and scientific advice that the country has been receiving has been politicised, and thereby compromised, throughout. Secondly, Cummings is a man who eclipses every Bond villain ever created in the sinister stakes, a malign character whose approach to politics is that of a mad scientist conducting mad experiments in a laboratory of the damned.But have no fear, because Keir is here, what with his constructive opposition, forensic questions, and the functioning opposition to the government hes leading. Indeed our centrist/Blairite chorus was in full orgasmic voice in response to this trusty knight of the realms debut at Prime Ministers Questions.It didnt exactly hurt that facing him at the despatch box was a political pygmy in the shape of Dominic Raab. It likewise didnt hurt that the newly elected leader of the opposition enjoys the full-throated support of the entire media class all the way from Guardianista liberal to Thatcher-loving right. Call me old fashioned, but when a former Tory chancellor such as Gideon Osborne the man who injected the country with the anti-people poison of austerity endorses the leader of the Labour Party, its a party headed at warp speed for perdition.When it comes to the comparing of Keir Starmer and Dominic Raab at what was the first PMQs both men conducted, one is reminded of the sage words of Gore Vidal:One does not bring a measuring rod to Lilliput.End.Thanks for taking the time to read my work. If you enjoy my writing and would like to read more, please consider making a donation in order to help fund my efforts. You can do so here. You can also grab a copy of my book This Boxing Game: A Journey in Beautiful Brutality from all major booksellers RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort? No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with. Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). Read the support documentation (second link below) to see how the Glass hardware actually functions. Build some apps to this specification. Soon enough, you will find a friend with hardware to t
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Thrift Store Wigs, Absolutely No Heart: the Brittany Murphy Story
Thrift Store Wigs, Absolutely No Heart: the Brittany Murphy Story
by Marie LodiLifetime has recently been focusing on biopics instead of their usual awesomely bad cyberseduction-forbidden-priest-romance fare. Last year, they released The Anna Nicole Story; despite a decent cast (Adam Goldberg, Cary Elwes) and this shot of Martin Landau as J. Howard Marshall, the film fell flat. So far, this year well see The Unauthorized Saved by the Bell Movie, an unauthorized Aaliyah flick to look forward to (or fear), and a Whitney Houston movie directed by none other than Angela Bassett. Lifetimes latest release, The Brittany Murphy Story, seemed like it came out of nowhere. And it did; The Brittany Murphy Story was shot in just two weeks, with the lead actress having only two days to prepare for the role. If I was going to sum up my review in one sentence, that sentence would be: this movie was a depressing three-ring circus with lots of thrift store wigs and not much heart. It begins with Brittany (Amanda Fuller), wearing bad wig #1, as a teenager living in New Jersey. She convinces her mother Sharon (Sherilyn Fenn, in bad wig #2 ) to move to Los Angeles with the hopes of starting her acting career. Soon Brittany is booking commercials and appearing on the show Drexells Class. She wins the pivotal role of new girl Tai in Clueless, the role that introduced most of us to Brittany.On set, Brittany overhears a crew member saying cruel things about her weight and laments that she is not a pretty tall blonde, like her co-star Alicia Silverstone, played by Karynn Moore (whose wig might actually be the most frightening of all). Later, Brittany starts wearing her hair straight and dyes it blonde, transforming herself into the Hollywood starlet she always wanted to be. Thats when her trouble begins. Brittany becomes a darling of the paparazzi and eventually Simon Monjack, a paparazzi who nonetheless, warns Brittany that the paparazzi are not your friends! After a failed, but lovingly goofy, relationship with Ashton Kutcher, Simon eventually becomes Brittanys husband.After their wedding, Brittanys career goes into a downward spiral. She is fired from two movies, battles drug addiction rumors, and becomes paranoid that people are after her, when she hears what she thinks are gunshots in her neighborhood. She becomes severely ill but refuses to see a doctor. On December 20, 2009, Brittany dies in her home. Her death is explained in the credits to be caused by pneumonia and anemia. Six months later, Simon died from the same causes.Brittany and her mother were quite close, and the movie portrays them as having a dynamic more codependent than a normal mother-daughter relationship. At the time of her death, Brittany, Sharon, and Simon were all living together in that same house. Lets not forget the weird photo that Sharon and Simon took after Brittanys death. Sharon reportedly sold many of Brittanys personal belongings including her passport. Lifetime has not revealed who their sources were for the film, so its curious where they received the info for Brittanys private life. Amanda Fuller, best known for Last Man Standing, was cast as Brittany, despite bearing no resemblance whatsoever to the late actress. She may have had Brittanys trademark giggle down, but much of her vocal performance remained in the thick New Jersey accent Brittany used during her performance as Tai, which was odd since Brittany didnt use that accent in real life. The best performance might actually go to Ashton Kutchers (Adam Hagenbuch) trucker hat, which had the words This Is My Trucker Hat emblazoned on it (to prevent theft, Im sure. ) It had its big closeup during a scene where Ashton placed it on top of a lampshade after a wild night of partying symbolizing their impending breakup due to lifestyle differences: Ashton liked to party; Brittany liked to stay at home and hang out with mom.Brittanys father, Angelo Bertolotti, is setting Twitter ablaze with his anger. Hes pissed that Lifetime chose to make this cacadooky movie about his daughter and wants justice for her mysterious death. Last year, Bertolotti sent Britneys hair and tissues to a company for testing, and a report showed that there were ten different metals present in Brittanys system at the time of her death. Even with this new information, the Los Angeles Coroner has no plans to exhume Brittanys body for further investigation. Theres even a petition to open the case. Brittanys story is tragically filled with so many question marks. Perhaps thats one reason why this biopic leaves a bitter taste and a sad feeling, far from the guilty pleasure giddiness a Lifetime Original Movie usually provides.I fondly remember watching an episode of MTVs Diary years ago that showed Brittany as a ball of positive energy. She drank a shit-ton of Mountain Dew and was stoked on her new house (she had bought it from Britney Spears) and the fancy hotel rooms she was staying in. Brittany seemed like a down-to-earth person who counted Dr. Pepper Lip Smackers as one of her favorite beauty products. After she died, I went straight to the drugstore and bought a Dr. Pepper Lip Smacker in a tribute.Maybe instead of watching The Brittany Murphy Story, honor her by streaming Clueless, Uptown Girls, and Little Black Book, and these videos that show Brittany as she should be remembered: a bubbly woman with an infectious laugh, boundless talent, and who could really belt out a tune.Marie Lodi is the president of a pizza club in LA. She is also a staff writer and the resident style advice columnist at Rookie. Richard Simmons once said she moved like a stripper. Read more of her stuff at and follow her everywhere @agentlover. RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort? No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with. Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). Read the support documentation (second link below) to see how the Glass hardware actually functions. Build some apps to this specification. Soon enough, you will find a friend with hardware to t
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Colin Kaepernicks Stand Against Racial Injustice in the Land of the Free
Colin Kaepernicks Stand Against Racial Injustice in the Land of the Free
Founding Father and slave owner Thomas Jeffersons mantra that, When injustice becomes law, resistance becomes duty, is today exemplified in the stance taken by NFL quarterback, Colin Kaepernick, with his refusal to stand for the US national anthem prior to the San Francisco 49ers recent preseason game against the Green Bay Packers. As Kaepernick told the press afterwards, I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color. To me, this is bigger than football and it would be selfish on my part to look the other way. There are bodies in the street and people getting paid leave and getting away with murder."Kaepernicks stand is with the growing number of victims of police brutality in America, specifically blacks whove been gunned down by law enforcement officers in controversial circumstances, and over the lack of prosecutions when it comes to the officers involved. It is a controversy and national scandal which confirms that when it comes to law enforcement and justice, there are two Americas. There is the land of opportunity that is the domain of most white people, otherwise known as the American Dream, and there is the American Nightmare which is the lived experience of black and brown people, predominately located in the countrys sprawling inner cities.Malcolm X put it thus: No, Im not an American. Im one of the 22 million black people who are the victims of Americanism. One of the 22 million black people who are the victims of democracy, nothing but disguised hypocrisy. So, Im not standing here speaking to you as an American, or a patriot, or a flag-saluter, or a flag-waver no, not I. Im speaking as a victim of this American system. And I see America through the eyes of the victim. I dont see any American dream; I see an American nightmare.Predictably, the 28-year old quarterback has been hit with a tsunami of criticism over his stance, demonised as unpatriotic and a disgrace to the NFL. His critics have taken particular umbridge over the fact Kaepernick recently signed a six-year $114 million contract with the 49ers, thereby inferring that being rich and not having a social conscience are two sides of the same coin. Indeed Kaepernick, who is of mixed race parentage, is deserving of even more respect given his wealth, as the people hes taking a stand with victims of police brutality are overwhelmingly poor or from low income communities.If there is one thing white America hates it is having its mask of democracy and liberty removed to reveal the true face of a nation that was established upon the genocide of the indigenous population, prior to being built on the whipped and gnarled backs of millions of slaves. It is a country that still today exists at the negation of people of colour, disproportionately making up the ranks of the astounding 47 million of US citizens living in poverty in the second decade of the 21st century. Regardless of the long and courageous struggle of the Civil Rights Movement, regardless of the raft of laws passed against racial discrimination, and regardless of a constitution that enshrines the principle that, all men are created equal, in 2018 America has yet to come to terms with the racism and inequality that lie at the heart of its culture and cultural values.You only have to consider the rise and popularity of Republican presidential candidate, Donald Trump, to understand the extent of the recrudescence of bigotry and prejudice in the land of the free almost to the point where you could be forgiven for thinking the pro-slavery Confederacy that won the countrys 186165 civil war. Colin Kaepernick is not the only high profile voice thats been raised against the ongoing injustice being suffered by black people and people of colour in America recently. Beyonce has also attracted criticism for taking the same stand during her performance at the MTV Video Music Awards in New York with her depiction of a police shooting. In taking the public position they have, Kaepernick and Beyonce are standing on the shoulders of other black American athletes and performers whove refused to look the other way in a society in which they have succeeded in achieving financial and professional success. In so doing they have earned something far more valuable than any contract, endorsement, or paycheque; they have earned a place in history.Paul Robeson, Muhammad Ali, Tommie Smith, John Carlos their names live on as a reminder that only live fish can swim against the tide, and that it is upon those with the courage to say no to injustice, to refuse to go along to get along, that justice and freedom depends.To those who insist that every Americas should respect the national anthem and the flag it reveres, here again we see the disjunction between the myth of America and its ugly truth. The Star Spangled Banner was written by a man, Francis Scott Key, whod tasted defeat in the US War of Independence at the hands of former slaves fighting on the side of the British against the future of slavery and oppression that awaited them and their families in the event that the men such as he prevailed.Keys disdain for black soldiers, Colonial Marines, who dared take up arms to fight for their freedom from slavery and racial oppression, is laid out in a verse of the Star Spangled Banner that nowadays is never sung or at least certainly not in public.No refuge could save the hireling and slaveFrom the terror of flight or the gloom of the grave,And the star-spangled banner in triumph doth waveOer the land of the free and the home of the brave. Colin Kaepernick courage reminds us of the timeless wisdom embodied in the words of South Africas Archbishop Desmond Tutu, If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.More than neutral, the quarterbacks critics are the kind of people Oscar Wilde had in mind when he described patriotism as the virtue of the vicious.End RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort? No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with. Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). 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The Myth That Labours 1983 Manifesto Was too Left Wing
The Myth That Labours 1983 Manifesto Was too Left Wing
One of the most enduring and longstanding myths of British politics is that Labour lost the 1983 general election because it was too left wing, fighting the election on a manifesto that ensured it was unelectable. In words that have become engraved in the nations history, Labours Gerald Kaufman described the 83 Labour manifesto as the longest suicide note in history, which is how it is still regarded over three decades on.It is a myth that has been doing the rounds in the context of Labour Shadow Chancellors John McDonnell pledge not only to renationalise the railways, Royal Mail, and energy and water companies as part of an electoral platform of anti austerity, wealth redistribution, and a state role in the countrys economic life. Taken together, it is a platform that has succeeded in exciting and energising millions up and down the country who had become accustomed to a Labour Party that had surrendered to right wing nostrums on the economy, welfare, and foreign policy.In 1983 Labour put forward a manifesto that drew inspiration and direct lineage from the transformational programme of the 1945 Labour government, the most ambitious of any Labour government ever. Back then, despite the parlous state of an economy exhausted after the Second World War, Labour came to power committed to governing in the interests of a working class that had been accustomed to unemployment and poverty with little if any succour from the state prior to the war. The subsequent rolling out of the welfare state, NHS, and a commitment to full employment laid the foundations of the most sustained period of economic stability and prosperity in the nations history. With the harnessing of state investment, planning, and intervention in the economy, it was a radical departure from the laissez faire policies that had led to the Depression of the 1930s, condemning millions of working families to penury and destitution.By the time of the 1983 general election working class families and communities had suffered the consequences of four years of Thatcherism. The country was mired in recession with unemployment at a record 3.2 million, as Thatcher set about decimating the nations industrial base in favour of turning a deregulated banking and financial sector into the motor of the economy, in the process ensuring the transferance of wealth from the poor to the rich on a grand scale.The result was a spike in inequality, crime, and public spending on welfare as tax cuts added further downward pressure on public funds. In this context, Labour pledged to embark on a programme of investment in industry, eduation, council housing, jobs, and the NHS. Along with an increase in child benefit and pensions and the renationalisation of those state assets that had already been sold off and privatised under the Tories, it offered a progressive alternative.It would be mostly funded by an increase in government borrowing rather than tax increases, on the argument that borrowing to invest in the economy is more productive than borrowing to pay for an over-inflated welfare budget, given the record rate of unemployment that obtained under Thatchers government. The scourge of poverty wages would also be tackled through the strengthening of the Equal Pay Act in consultation and cooperation with the unions. Currency controls would be re-introduced in order to counter currency speculation, thereby guaranteeing the stability of sterling and interest rates.Rather than focus on reducing the budget deficit, a priority would be placed on tackling the nations trade deficit, which under Thatcher had regressed to the point where Britain, once the workshop of the world, had become a net importer for the first time in its history, a direct result of the destruction of the countrys industrial base. Labours plan of placing controls on imports and bolstering exports via investment in industry and manufacturing was designed to reverse this trend, creating jobs in the process. The expansion of democracy was also planned, especially at the local level, which had suffered under the governments policy of reducing the role and power of local government in its determination to railroad through its structural adjustment of the economy with minimal opposition.On defence unilateral nuclear disarmament was a bold initiative designed to tackle the scourge of weapons of mass destruction on the understanding their use could never be countenanced and were a crushing waste of public funds that could be better spent and invested. The objective of the governments foreign policy would be based onthe urgent need to restore dtente and dialogue between the states and the peoples of the world. We will actively pursue dialogue with the Soviet Union and China, and will urge the American government to do so. We will work consistently for peace and disarmament, and devote all our efforts to pulling the world back from the nuclear abyss. Labour will dedicate some of the resources currently wasted on armaments to projects designed to promote both security and human development.An essential difference between the Labour and the Tory approach is that we have a foreign policy that will help liberate the peoples of the world from oppression, want and fear. We seek to find ways in which social and political progress can be achieved and to identify the role that Britain can play in this process. So why, given the aforementioned, did Labour lose the 1983 election?There are two key reasons: i) the bounce in personal popularity enjoyed by Margaret Thatcher in the aftermath of the Falklands War the previous year, and ii) the split in Labours vote by the breakaway SDP faction.Mention must also be made of the campaign of demonisation that was carried out in the pages of the right wing popular press against Labour leader Michael Foot, who was treated disgracefully and venomously by a tabloid press that had fallen behind Thatcher and extended itself in fanning the flames of the reaction and jingoism that had swept the land on the back of the Falklands War. Here it is worth noting that Labour intended to place controls on press ownership, understanding the danger posed to democracy by the concentration of newspaper ownership in the hands of a few rich media barons, thus inviting their enmity. In an era when social media and the Internet was a distant dream, this aspect of British society was key in shaping public attitudes and opinionTaken in the round, the 1983 Labour Party manifesto offered a truly progressive, redistributive, intelligent, and eminently realisable alternative to the cruel and desolate reality of Tory Britain. Defeat in 1983 not only meant another four years of Thatcher, it set in train the process of turning Labour into the Tory-lite party it became RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort? No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with. Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). Read the support documentation (second link below) to see how the Glass hardware actually functions. Build some apps to this specification. Soon enough, you will find a friend with hardware to t
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How to Make a Dent and Have a Successful Career in the New Era of Work
How to Make a Dent and Have a Successful Career in the New Era of Work
The days of cog-in-the-machine employment is coming to an end. As the information economy grows and develops, people who can do more than shift a lever or press a button on a production line are more important than ever.But, what is it exactly that we need people, in this new era of work, to do? And, how can we create a culture and environment that facilitates and supports their work and produces the results todays businesses need?I wont bore you with a long winded, wanky, geo-politico-eco-historical exploration of the needs of modern businesses. If youre reading this Im sure you already have some ideas.I will instead state, quite simply, this:We need leaders who can work collaboratively and creatively to solve complex problems.Ill say that again. Todays organisations need leaders who can work collaboratively and creatively to solve complex problems. And, herein lies our dilemma. The way we run organisations and the way we manage people does not support or create the right environment for this type of person, let alone a whole team of them, to operate with the autonomy or freedom required to be effective.So what can you do? How can you become the type of person we need to work and manage in a modern organisation?Start here:Do something you enjoyYou are likely to spend more time working throughout your lifetime than doing any other activity. You may as well spend it doing something youre good at and love doing. Universities and colleges offer more degrees than at any other time. Online courses are easily accessible and many are free or cheap. Theres no reason to settle for a career doing something boring or that you feel indifferent about. There are also more opportunities than at any time in our history to start your own business and be successful. Dont limit yourself to the rat race. A credit card with a few hundred dollors and a good idea is all you need to start an independent business with a good chance of being successful if you do it right.Work toward something you care aboutThere is plenty of evidence that shows that when we are alienated from the outcomes of our work, we become unhappy. There is also plenty of research that shows that when we work towards a high level goal in an area we care about, we become happier. Ill let you do the math.Lead from behindYou will work for morons, idiots, know-it-alls, know-nothings and lazy jerks for the majority of your career. Dont let them stop you. Dont let them kill your spirit. Your boss will micro-manage, get in the way and just generally slow progress on a regular basis. Your job is to convince them that they have more to gain by leaving you alone to do your work.Create and support the right environmentIf youre a manager: hire the right people with the right skills, set the goals and the strategy, support them, give them the time and materials they need and then, get out of the way.Todays organisations need leaders who can work collaboratively and creatively to solve complex problems. Be that person. Be that type of leader. Dont settle for a generic, uninspired career. Youll be happier and more successful for it RELATED QUESTION I didn't get Google Glass Explorer Edition. Is trying to learn Glass dev without the hardware a futile effort? No, you can still learn the fundamentals of Glass development without the hardware. There are three main approaches for accomplishing this: 1) Visit the Mirror API documentation, get into the playground, and start hashing up some code. Download the PHP, Java, and Python library, whichever you're most comfortable with. Familiarize yourself with the jargon and converntions (timeline, bundles, menus, etc). Read the support documentation (second link below) to see how the Glass hardware actually functions. Build some apps to this specification. Soon enough, you will find a friend with hardware to t
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